SEXUAL HEALTH

What Does It Mean to See an LGBTIQAPSB+ Affirming Psychologist?

This blog was prepared for you by registered psychologist and psychosexual therapist, Carla Jones.

Finding a psychologist can feel daunting, especially if you’re looking for someone who truly understands and affirms your identity. At Haven Psychology Centre, we believe that therapy should be a place where your sexuality, gender, and whole self are welcomed, celebrated, and supported. But what does it actually mean to see an LGBTIQAPSB+ or identity affirming psychologist, and why does it matter for your wellbeing?

What “affirming” really means in therapy (and some myth busting!!).

Affirming care goes beyond simply “working with” queer clients. It’s about actively creating a safe, validating, and empowering space where your identity is recognised as an integral part of who you are. An affirming psychologist reflects on their own assumptions and biases, uses inclusive and respectful language, and stays informed about the experiences and challenges faced by the communities you’re a part of. 

In practice, this might mean acknowledging the specific impacts of discrimination, exploring your experiences without judgment, and supporting you in navigating both internal and external challenges related to identity. We also might link you up with other affirming supports, because we know that navigating systems that are inherently non-inclusive can be daunting. Affirming therapy recognises that your identity is not a problem to be solved, it’s just a part of what makes you… you! 

However, we know there can be some misconceptions about what affirming care actually is, so for the record, affirming care is NOT:

  • Simply “tolerating” someone’s identity or only being inclusive when it suits (i.e. conveniently around Pride Month or Mardi Gras). 
  • Trying to “fix” or change someone’s identity.
  • Assuming everyone has the same experiences or needs based on identity labels.
  • Ignoring intersectionality.
  • Making assumptions about what someone wants or needs in therapy.
  • Forcing someone into treatments they do not want or are unsure about. 

Why affirming care matters for mental health

Research consistently shows that marginalised folks experience higher rates of anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges. This is not because of who they are, but because of stigma, discrimination, and social exclusion. Therapy that is not affirming can inadvertently reinforce these feelings of shame or invisibility.

In contrast, affirming therapy provides safety and visibility, which are powerful protective factors. Feeling genuinely seen and understood in therapy can help you process past experiences, build resilience, reclaim your sense of self, or just reach your therapeutic goals. In turn, this makes it possible to move forward with confidence, hope, and skills that are true to you!

What you can expect from us

At Haven Psychology Centre, our approach is not only identity affirming, but it is anti-racist, anti-oppression and trauma-informed. We draw on evidence-based modalities such as (but not limited to!!) Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Schema Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to support you with whatever challenges you may be facing. Our team recognises the intersections of sexuality, gender, neurodivergence, chronic pain and trauma, and we are committed to meeting you where you are.

Whether you’re visiting us in Brisbane (Meanjin), Melbourne (Naarm), or connecting online via telehealth, you’ll find a space where your experiences are heard and your wellbeing is prioritised.

Questions to ask when looking for an affirming psychologist

Yes, we are pretty cool at Haven. But we want you to feel empowered and comfortable looking for the best psychologist for you! And we know that can be an overwhelming process – so many of our clients will report this when they finally find their way to us. So, to give you a hand, here are a few questions that may help guide your search:

  • Do they use inclusive language on their website, on their social media, and in practice? 
  • Do they highlight experience with LGBTIQAPSB+ clients? Or clients with intersectional experiences?
  • Do they recognise intersectionality and the role of lived experience?
  • Are they open to feedback about language, pronouns, or assumptions?

These questions can help ensure that you find a psychologist who not only understands your identity but also supports your journey in a meaningful and safe way.

Finding an affirming psychologist near you

You deserve therapy that celebrates your identity and supports your growth. If you’re seeking an affirming psychologist in Brisbane (Meanjin) or Melbourne (Naarm), or anywhere via telehealth, our team at Haven Psychology Centre is here to provide compassionate, evidence-based care tailored to your needs. 

Think that we might be able to help you? Contact Us here!