Is Relationship Therapy Right for You?
Relationships are complicated and maintaining a connection can take a lot of work.
Sharing your lives and space can be difficult at times, let alone when major life changes are thrown into the mix! Even smaller, less significant problems that arise can lead to bigger issues coming to light over time.
Sometimes it can be hard to know when it is necessary to seek help from a relationship therapist. It may seem easier and less intrusive to try and fight it out alone, however, studies have shown that couples who seek out relationship therapy earlier, have a higher chance of reconciling their relationships in the long term.
In this blog, we will explore some of the ways that relationship therapy might be right for you and your partner.
Avoidance issues
Avoidance is an extremely common defence mechanism, which people use to dodge arguments, tough discussions and negativity.
Avoidance can also indicate that one partner does not want to fight or be judged by the other. It can sometimes also be a final effort to save a relationship by not speaking about issues directly.
It is important to note that avoidance is not just about skirting around problems – it can also manifest physically as some couples avoid touch and intimacy.
Relationship therapy will enable you and your partner to be direct and upfront with each other in a safe space. It will also provide invaluable skills that you can use for future communication and intimacy with each other so that you can learn to avoid avoidance!
Constant negativity
If you and your partner seem to be stuck in a cycle of never-ending negativity or fights, then relationship therapy may be helpful for you. Therapy can help you both to speak about any underlying issues and build healthy communication skills.
Lingering hurt or absence of trust
Lingering hurt and finding it hard to move forward are common issues in relationships. These can have a huge impact on the way you communicate with each other and this can have a serious impact on your future.
This can also lead to trust issues within relationships. Once lost, trust can be hard to regain without relationship therapy – even if you have said you forgive one another.
A relationship therapist will allow for open and honest discussion so that you feel safe and comfortable communicating your past and present feelings. In opening this communication channel, the relationship is more likely to move forward and regain trust.
Lack of compromise
If you or your partner think that there is a lack of compromise in your relationship, conflict can arise swiftly. Relationship therapy can help you and your partner recognise ways in which you might already unknowingly compromise, or provide you with tools to help you compromise in the future.
You feel like you are drifting apart
The harsh reality is that as relationships go the distance, it can be harder to remember why you fell for each other in the first place. Finding the time to spend quality time with each other can also be harder. Relationship therapy can help you to discover each other again and remind you why you fell in love in the first place.
How we can help you with Relationship Therapy
There are many reasons you may be seeking out relationship therapy. The reasons discussed above are some of the more common relationship issues, however, each relationship is different and the problems you face may also be different.
This decision can be one of the hardest steps to take together, and so you will need to think about what you would like to get out of relationship therapy.
If you are considering that relationship therapy would be helpful for you and your partner/s then get in touch with us sooner rather than later. To book an initial relationship therapy consultation please contact our friendly team today by phone at 07 3368 1537 or online using our contact form here.
